Are you an adult experiencing bullying in your workplace or church? I have
had several adults share with me their experiences with being a target of
bullying behavior either in their workplace or at their church. Adult bullying
is similar to student bullying in that they share similar characteristics, such
as jealousy, the power to cause hurt and pain, or failure to understand the
differences in others. A student is exposed repeatedly to taunting by one or
more classmates. Similarly, adult bullying occurs when an employee experiences
a persistent pattern of mistreatment from others that causes them harm. The
bully could be a co-worker, church member or a boss. The bully could include
such ploys as verbal, nonverbal, physical abuse, psychological abuse and
humiliation. In the hopes of making themselves feel good, they may try to steal
your self-confidence.
Mistreatment by a bully could be:
• blaming you for mistakes;
• insulting your intelligence;
• placing unreasonable work demands on you;
• sabotaging you;
• giving invalid criticism;
• creating exclusion or social isolation;
• failing to give you credit for work done, and/or,
• threatening you with job loss.
In two surveys by the Workplace Bullying Institute and Zogby International,
35 percent of workers experienced bullying first hand, and 62 percent of the
bullies were men. A Harris Interactive poll conducted in 2011 revealed that 34
percent of women reported being bullied in the workplace. So you are not
alone.
Targets of consistent bullying could experience significant physical and
mental health concerns. Are you frequently absent from work, have
musculoskeletal problems or have low self-esteem? Do you face financial worries
because of absences? Are you unable to sleep and/or are depressed?
Take action
You could start by talking with the bully. Let him or her know how their
behavior makes you feel. Understand that you are not the source of the problem
and that bullying is about gaining control. You could next talk with your
supervisor or your Human Resource Department. Be sure to document all
conversations with the date, time and who you spoke with, and include any
witnesses. Start a paper trail of emails and texts received and sent. A paper
trail may help if the bully denies inappropriate behavior.
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